I do believe speaking with the gf is a blunder.

Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am

We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. I’ve done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply the person I will be.

Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my solution to attempt to communicate with her, but if she sets the record right aided by the gf, ideally she’s going to turn her focus through the LW being a problem to your man being the matter, that will be the proceedings.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july

As well as, just just just what can you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another really and truly just a coincidence?

Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july

I am able to realise why you’ll believe means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, maybe not the ex-BF present relationship. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can simply get a handle on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and being irritating. Their relationship with brand new GF is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls need not be buddies at all. It might you need to be yet another url to the man when it comes to LW, that is attempting to cut ties that are emotional.

Katie July 17, 2012, 9:54 am

Thats a point that is good sure!

Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am

Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I accustomed be buddies with this particular selection of dudes whom once had such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy i’d get really surprised, cos they seemed so normal to me on them after a couple of weeks and? Then we realised it ended up beingn’t the girls, its the inventors. While the girls had been all simply normal those who, you realize, wished to know if that they had a boyfriend or not…….

Katie 17, 2012, 10:04 am july

Yea. Its love, as soon as that takes place enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU WILL BE!!

I do feel detrimental to this GF that is new. She deserves to own a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she probably hates the LW because she’s being told by the guy a lot of crap about her. Its simply all incorrect. The whole thing.

Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am

Personally I think bad on her too, but she has to watch out for by herself. Its difficult being the girlfriend that is first a long relationship, but that is why many people go into these with their eyes spacious. Oh and the man has to prevent dropping “But We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. I keep imagining him carrying it out the real method the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july

Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands which he features a GF, he could be simply interested in a response each time he claims it. He wishes the LW become like “well I don’t care I will still blow you” or “Dump that skank, and come back to me” if you have a GF,

Katie July 17, 2012, 10:27 am

Yea, its like whenever i was in twelfth grade and me personally and my boyfriend would separation any other week, and then he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.

Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 2:45 pm july

@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and acquire right straight back together”

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 10:05 am

I’ve said right here a whole lot, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other means. I’m sure therefore men that are many utilize that word to hide with their dickish behavior.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am

We don’t understand why people would phone somebody crazy within the first place. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The very fact on it, makes me think you may be the one that likes to stir the muck that you put a “crazy” label.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am

Additionally, if you should be ready to phone some body crazy, wouldn’t which means that you will be kinda crazy too?

Rilooyah July 17, 2012, 4:44 pm

So real! As soon as the” that is“crazy down, Im operating one other method. I do believe it absolutely was stated above- once you attract the crazy, the common denominator is always YOU, friend.

Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:21 am

To be honest, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and polish hearts phone number she’s knows that when this happened to her she most likely will be upset about this too, and yet she continues to respond to this guys calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of that bull shit.

Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july

Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk for this woman because your simply planning to cause drama. You must just understand he’s maybe not your boyfriend and also you still like their attention, the reality that you understand he has got a gf is causing you to a bad guy in this too.

Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july

That is a great point, you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.

So LW, if you truly do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, keep them alone!! Like eljay (I favor you, eljay) said, some one needs to function as the adult in this example. If he could be perhaps not prepared to be, you need to do it.

Painted_lady 17, 2012, 2:17 pm july

Amen bestie – we accept you about talking to your girlfriend. That knows what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their chatting so frequently, but even though the relationship is none of these company, the fact the LW and also the brand new gf have actually met now i do believe permits the LW some freedom. That I had heard about and wanted to get along with (I’m going to assume that the LW wants that? ) and it went horribly, I might reach out and go, hey, I’m so sorry that went badly if I had been in a situation where a friend brought someone around. She does not fundamentally need certainly to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend was saying _____ in my experience and he’s the main one calling, and then he said you had been fine with this specific, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I became underneath the impression you had been fine with your being buddies, but i simply knew I’m maybe maybe not fine with your being friends either, so that it’s no problem anymore. ”

Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july

I’dn’t speak to the gf about it. If We had been dating somebody for just two months the very last thing I would personally desire is their ex of three years reaching down to me personally. And simply to inform you which you respect her relationship? I would personally think you had been bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Simply simply Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex partner you don’t desire to hear from him for a time, and then keep them alone. Truthfully they probably won’t work-out them work that out themselves because you are still in the picture (which doesn’t do great things for a new relationship), but let.

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am

Oh in addition, that we leave immediately if I were the new girlfriend and my bf and I ran into his ex at a bar I would also demand. It is therefore uncomfortable. Everyone else pretends they can be” that is“mature stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay as soon as your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of 36 months.

Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am